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Porn Addicts Journey to Life is written by a Group of people who have all walked through Addiction to Porn, Sex and Masturbation through the tools shared by Desteni. We share our perspectives and experiences with Porn to Support those who are ready to take the next step to Stop the Addiction to Porn. Who we are doesn’t matter because we’re the same as you. We write anonymously because of where the world is at today in relation to porn and because of the understanding and the persecution that follow porn addicts. We write anonymously so that we can share the unfiltered truth about life as a porn addict, so that it may assist and support those who are still trapped in the addiction to porn.

Desteni doesn’t support Porn – Here is WHY.

Many people mistake the stand we have against porn as either bigotry or the desire to step on someone’s apparent ‘freedom of choice’.

Obviously those that portray us as Bigots have not seen their own Bigotry as intolerance toward others who hold different beliefs, such as the one that porn sucks -and not in the way this word has immediately brought to mind.

Stating that porn sucks without explaining why would be a form of bigotry comparable to the one that upholds the right to Porn as Free Choice, so I want to take the time to explain in as clear words as I can line up the reasons for this stand, so those who are insisting in standing as part of the group may consider the need to align and those who are affirming their apparent god given right to porn, may reconsider what they are really standing for.

I am a woman, and I have been addicted to porn, in this then I can qualify as an expert on the topic with an insider view on the problem.

Of course no one likes to disclose what they have participated in and they didn’t like about themselves even while they were doing it, specifically because as I will tell my story, those who are addicted to porn may find some familiarity with
the progression that I will describe and may see that

  • they are not originals
  • they are not particularly bad or disgusting
  • they share exactly the same pattern as all porn addicts
  • they may heal

The first point to understand about porn to put it in proper contest is that it’s a BUSINESS.

In fact it’s more than a business, it’s a Multi Billion Dollar Corporate owned business.

This is a very important point and it will be the lead to how I want to expose this point, because many don’t yet get it that they are NOT choosing porn, they have chosen it at the beginning maybe, out of curiosity, or the desire to break their taboos, or to educate themselves about sex because they didn’t know where to go to learn what a healthy sexuality is all about, but that was just the first point, there was only one choice you have ever made, that was the First time you went and looked for it, after that you never had a free choice, you only had a biochemical urge to satisfy, it’s called Dopamine release, it’s the ‘feel good chemical of the brain, once you started it you gave your permission to your brain to produce this chemical at will, then you never really wanted porn, you wanted ‘that feel good’ moment that you experienced the first time, you basically became a Drug Addict.

Please note that I’m not making anything up, this video will explain to you how your brain works on Porn from a scientific perspective.

As it happens with every drug, once the body gets used to it you have to ‘up the dosage’, of course if you liked to get aroused watching people having sex in a missionary position, you must understand that, in time, that won’t be enough, that ‘image’ won’t trigger anymore the same good feeling, and unlike other drugs you can’t shoot yourself up several times with the same image, you have to ‘up the image content’, the more porn you watch, the more you seek for devious, deviant images, come on, did you really think anyone has ever had a fetish for dwarfs with dogs until porn became a problem inside people’s minds?

Since I was young I have watched the progression of pornography to a point of shame, at my time there were erotic comic books, in black and white, for an extra kick they re-did all the fairy tales with sex, sure you can work out what Snow White and the seven dwarf did, or Beauty and the Beast, there was an ironic twist to taking fairy tales and turning them into porn stories, I’m sure a lot of women of my time stopped being affected by fairy tales because their unbelievable stories were superimposed with sexual images – apparently now Disney is doing that subliminally to your kids, it’s just to catch their future porn clients earlier, mind you, it’s nothing personal, it’s just business.

A decade ago the porn website that were available for free had so many subcategories to cater for all tastes, uniforms, family play outs, animals, forced sex, and should we write it – yes lets’ – children.

For many that see pedophilia as the ultimate evil, it’s important to understand that we are not seeing the whole picture here, porn is a much bigger picture than what we want to admit, disowning our understanding that users will go for ever more shocking pictures makes us look dumb and not the supporters of the freedom of choice we claim to sustain, we are just into porn for an absolutely self interested kick, claiming ‘freedom of choice’ as something that we must uphold to not be abused, it’s an abuse and I want to explain why porn is an abuse and how it is an abuse we cannot separate ourselves from, if we keep using it.

So, as I said and as the video ‘Your Brain on Porn, clearly explain, as the need for Dopamine increases, we seek images with a higher shocking content, we need that shock to release dopamine, to feel good, problem is that as we abuse this biochemical trigger, the body will try to protect itself and will become Dopamine resistant, which mean we now have to double up the shocking content of the images we watch for that kick – basically this is how people go all the way to images that they can’t even conceive entertaining and under the pressure of which, caught between the need for the drug and the shame, they squeeze themselves in darker and darker corners in their own mind, until they become a danger to themselves and society.

I took porn as far as I could within what I could accept, I didn’t go for children because I didn’t have the balls and I feared getting a taste for it, but I did go for images of abuse, of women debasement of anything that could shock me enough to get my fix, at the height of my pot addiction I did so much porn that my brain fused and I had to face a time when everything I saw in reality turned into a sex image, a chair/table leg (no wonder Queen Victoria had them covered), the hand of a waiter, a cucumber, my life, the real physical life turned into a porn movie, that was when I switched off the porn, when I feared that I would no longer be able to lead a normal life, like ever.

I don’t believe in brain differences between men and women, I am sure that what happened to me happens to men, I am not so sure though that the overflow of images has the same effect on women or men, porn didn’t make me want to rape a man, women don’t need to, we can always find someone to have sex with, but what if I were a man, where would those flashing images take me? Which stories would I make up to justify why it was my right to fuck someone that didn’t want sex, how far would I go? Would I rape someone? Why not? Because of Morality?

Now Morality and sex is a funny mixture, men with a sex addiction and a morality problem are possibly those that rape a woman and then blame it on her, they have to since they didn’t do the work to either rid themselves of porn or of morality, notwithstanding that claiming morality and doing porn is just as hypocritical as the Catholic church, preaching sex as a sin and having priests abusing children.

Here is why you can’ have morality of any shape or form, nor any integrity if you do porn: unless you are in total denial of reality you know porn harms you, you have seen your progression into the most debasing images you can find for your kick and so you can’t deny what porn is doing to you, you have seen as well that those images don’t go away and that you are NOT in control of them, they flash up as they please, you were once a consumer but you are now consumed by them, get real about this

You are abusing yourself as well through self judgement, through shame, guilt all emotions that you may in desperation direct toward women who you make out to be the source of your problem because you don’t want to see yourself as the source, the originator and perpetrator of everything you are going through because of porn and your participation in it you know that porn harms others, starting with your partners with whom you no longer have an honest physical relationship because all you can think and see is genitals popping up in your head while you have sex -if you have sex with another human being and you have not driven yourself so far down the porn rabbit hole that you can’t bring yourself to have a real physical relationship because you now fear that Your desires as your fantasies will never be satisfied, can’t ever be satisfied, because your potential partner will never be a dwarf that likes to have sex with dogs while you watch or other similar kinks for kicks

if you don’t know porn harms those who are involved in the business as well, here are some eye opening interviews where you can face the truth of porn and what it means to the porn stars in the business to undergo what they have to do just so that you may have your kick you are supporting the sex slavery trade, many women out there would never do what you have now grown a taste for, you need a slave for that, maybe one with a happy smile so that men like you can believe that they are happy and enjoy doing it and you are just an innocent bystander, watching happy women having sex…wake up.

Last and by no means least, you are as objectified as the women you make up to be objects, you are the object of a Corporation scheme where you have lost all the free choice that you never had, you are ‘free’ to choose your kink but no longer to choose IF you want to use and when, you are an addict, face it, the freedom of choice you claim is just a nice word to say you don’t want to give up this point no matter the harm you are causing.

Porn is one of the plagues of these last two centuries, Internet allowed it to go viral, viral as in a disease, as a result of porn we now have children raping children, so no one should have the gall to say that porn and rape are not related, it’s a mathematical understanding, one builds up an energetic desire until the bubble bursts and overflows into real life.

If you do porn, you are a Class A Abuser, I gave up porn, it’s possible, I know many inside Desteni that did, many are males and willing to offer support on the Forums.

There is NO excuse to engage in porn once you understand all its dynamics, you just have to stand up and break your addiction, is it going to be easy? No, of course not, you are a Dopamine drug addict, but you can get on with your recovery and leave the abuse behind for good.

Stand for a world that works for all, say No to Porn so that Sex as Self Expression may be born in this world and children can learn that instead of learning how to set up a rape corner at school where they can abuse other children.

Support is available for you to stop, it’s FREE and given by those that walked out of this addiction before you at Desteni Forums. Join now, switch off the porn for Life, for Good, to build a world we can truly be proud of.