For context, please read this article on BBC News: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/business-2370039
To replace a normal sexual relationship – where the real physical act of sex exists – with porn instead, which isn’t reality but is all orchestrated and is an exaggerated idea of sex, and to have that become the primary sexual relationship a person has – that’s got to screw up the person’s mind pretty severely. Men may not be effective in creating relationships with women when they’re addicted to porn, and when they go to have sex with a woman they may have unrealistic expectations of what the woman is supposed to do, how she is supposed to act, and what she is supposed to enjoy – all coming from the fact that pornography is becoming the main medium and connection that many people have towards sex, more than sex itself.
This has some dangerous side-effects:
Pornography can have people become removed from the reality of sex and lost within a delusional fantasy world in their mind regarding sex; it can cause people, by their own acceptance and allowance, to form an unhealthy obsession towards sex that, when not effectively treated, can be unleashed in the form of rape and sexual violence; pornography can also lead to its consumers developing and experiencing deep personal problems: for example, the loss of a relationship, mental health issues, sexual dysfunctions, and also the desire to commit suicide.
It’s pretty messed up that kids are getting into this, with their only idea of what sex is coming from what they have seen when surfing the internet. We have all heard the stories of teenage boys – or in some cases even younger than that – luring young girls into secluded areas and raping them. The severity and the escalation of this sort of occurrence taking place is highlighted in this news article from last year.
Sex needs to be brought back down to Earth and reality, as the illusions and fantasies surrounding sex existing both within and without – within our minds and without as our society in general – have taken precedence over the reality of sex. This has made sex into an unhealthy obsession for millions of people. This heightens the desire for sex to unnatural degrees, which inevitably eventuates in people getting hurt: ie. Every 2 minutes, someone in the U.S. is sexually assaulted. Pornography obviously is a contributing factor to this shocking statistic, as it exists to satisfy the desires of people for – and provide the market with – more and more pornography, and for more and more violent pornography, which further isolates people within their minds and continues feeding the desire for the real thing and to ‘make real’ their fantasies. When what there should be is a support network for people, to help to release them from their addictions and fantasies, and learn to establish effective relationships in the real world. Sex needs to become again something that is mutually beneficial and supportive of beings doing it, but it has been warped and transformed into something that encourages and leads to abuse. As long as we keep putting making profits over looking out for what is best for humanity however, porn will continue to flood the internet and will continue to influence people in negative, detrimental ways.
Another point to look at is the question: What is the main reason people get involved in the pornography industry?
No one talks about how almost all people only go into this industry because we have a system that doesn’t support us with our basic needs and human rights to be able to live in this world. For example, many women studying at university go into pornography or prostitution to be able to pay for their tuition fees, when we should have a system that supports people studying instead of punishing them with debt, which leads them to doing these things to be able to survive. A system that supports people would not economically force women to have to perform extreme sex acts in pornography, or sell their body within prostitution, to repay the system and to be able to eat. Yet how often is the validity of our current system, and the fact that it does not support people at all in their lives but instead takes and takes and takes, brought into question? And for those who justify consuming pornography: how is it OK to take advantage of women for your own pleasure, who are basically forced to enter into these professions because otherwise they will not be able to pay off their debts and put food on the table? It is taking advantage of other people and celebrating a system which forces women to do such things to be able to survive, and there is no justification possible of this. Read what both men and women have to go through oftentimes within the pornography industry, which they do to be able to make a living, in Chris Hedges‘ book “Empire of Illusion”; it is shocking – it should be enough for a person to refuse to support the pornography industry in any and all ways. We ought to be working together to create a system that supports us with providing our basic needs so people do not need to resort to pornography and sex-work just to be able to live, NOT literally celebrating this system by getting off on those who, knowingly or unwittingly, are exploited by it.
This is why we are standing up for the implementation of the Basic Income Guaranteed (B.I.G.). It is a system that is designed to support people with their requirements for day to day living in the world: ie. housing, food, a car, electricity. This will remove the necessity to resort to occupations within pornography and prostitution to be able to simply live.
What I would suggest is to stop all consumption of porn, stop the sexual fantasies in the mind which is basically just another version of porn, and bit by bit bring your relationship to sex back to Earth and back to reality. There is support on the Desteni Forum, within the What is Sex and Shocking Secrets of Masturbation interview series on EQAFE, and also within the DIP Lite course. I don’t know much about porn addicts anonymous kind of websites, but these places also may provide helpful advice as well.
Porn Addicts Journey to Life is written by a Group of people who have all walked through Addiction to Porn, Sex and Masturbation through the tools shared by Desteni. We share our perspectives and experiences with Porn to Support those who are ready to take the next step to Stop the Addiction to Porn.
Who we are doesn’t matter because we’re the same as you. We write anonymously because of where the world is at today in relation to porn and because of the understanding and the persecution that follow porn addicts. We write anonymously so that we can share the unfiltered truth about life as a porn addict, so that it may assist and support those who are still trapped in the addiction to porn.
- Porn and Sex – Why do we allow the degradation of Man? DAY 3 (pornaddictsjourneytolife.wordpress.com)
- The Most Fascinating Thing About Porn: DAY 5 (pornaddictsjourneytolife.wordpress.com)
- My experience on Porn and Prostitution Pt. 2 – (Self Forgiveness applied) – DAY 7 (pornaddictsjourneytolife.wordpress.com)
- Letter calls for PM to ban ‘rape porn’ (cassandracrying.wordpress.com)
- Missouri man gets 70 years for ‘unusually vicious’ child porn case (stltoday.com)