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When I first attempted to masturbate without porn, I couldn’t do it. I could not get it up because I had programmed the body and mind to use the ideas/images of porn or within thoughts to stimulate the body to arousal and therefore I was quite disconnected from the body. From this I became frustrated because I wanted to masturbate at that moment but I obviously couldn’t. I then used that belief that I needed porn to continue looking at porn instead of investigating why it was that I could not be here with the body and express myself within self honest masturbation – self honesty meaning I know my starting point is to express myself and not to support the ideas, images, beliefs of what I held as attractive or sexually arousing. I mean since masturbating from about age 12 or so, the body became programmed to need that form of sexual arousal because I rarely, if ever, masturbated solely with myself here in the body. And since there was the use of porn the ideas that stimulated the arousal started to become more specific, so specific to the point that only that image/idea would arouse me which meant no sex life because sex within the physical reality does not coincide with the ideas and images that I would use to stimulate myself and programmed the body/mind to respond to.
With many males who are facing the same process, one of understanding the body and getting back in touch with the body through exploration of real self expression within masturbation/sex, it will certainly take time to understand how the body is going to function in these cases because all that we’ve ever told the body is that we have no use for the real self expression within sex/masturbation because we have primarily used the ideas/images/porn to masturbate to = saying “I have porn and I will use that to generate arousal instead of listening to the body and how it in fact becomes aroused.” So from the body’s perspective it isn’t being used to stimulate itself nor is it being explored within self honesty; it realizes that the mind is `taking over` the point of sexual attraction via using emotions and feelings so to speak, so it doesn’t move when/as physical arousal is here because self within the body never explored that point.
There are preventative measures that one can take, as well as corrective. The preventative measures relies on the parents teaching children exactly what porn is, like sitting down with them and showing them porn, showing them what is really going on behind the scenes and showing that most of the scenes/movies are all staged and acted out and how real physical sex does not relate to what is being shown in porn. From there it is to let the child decide for themselves, no judgement, no morality, no reactions, simply showing them the consequences of their actions if one chooses to continue to participate with viewing porn. The corrective measures are firstly stopping participation in porn, the second is to start to investigate how the body responds to movement on itself and the then explore the body and sexual expression from the starting point of no images, no desires, no thoughts, no porn, no ideas, and simply move from an absolute clear starting point. It most likely won’t be easy at first, lots of frustration came up within me, but the key is to move through that frustration and to remain committed to ones principles of stopping porn and living what is best for self in relation to sex/masturbation/sexuality
In the next post I will write self forgiveness statements on the above mentioned
Who we are doesn’t matter because we’re the same as you. We write anonymously because of where the world is at today in relation to porn and because of the understanding and the persecution that follow porn addicts. We write anonymously so that we can share the unfiltered truth about life as a porn addict, so that it may assist and support those who are still trapped in the addiction to porn.
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